What’s most important is “the way the adults in their lives interact with them, especially in times of stress.”
That sums up nearly all we need to know about parenting and teaching, writes Annie Murphy Paul on Brilliant Blog.
Warm, “serve-and-return parenting,” which can be done in many ways, “conveys to [children] some deep, even transcendent messages about belonging, security, stability, and their place in the world.”
Effective teachers “convey to their students deep messages—often implicitly or even subliminally—about belonging, connection, ability, and opportunity . . . In the same way that responsive parenting in early childhood creates a kind of mental space where a child’s first tentative steps toward intellectual learning can take place, so do the right kind of messages from teachers in school create a mental space that allows a student to engage in more advanced and demanding academic learning.”
In addition, writes Paul, students must be exposed to “deep, meaningful, sensibly sequenced knowledge.”