4-year-old boy outgrows girly clothes

My Little Boy is Outgrowing Hearts and Rainbows, writes Stephanie Kaloi on The Good Men Project. It was “fun” for her to dress her preschooler in “bright colors” and  what she considers gender-neutral clothing, Kaloi writes. It was “half a political stance and half a frustration with how despondently boring I find most boy’s clothing.”

Granted, my son has worn his fair share of puff sleeves and rainbows, but MOST of his clothing has been boy-leaning, with a dash of glitter on a sleeve.

Boy-leaning with glitter? I don’t think so.

. . .  I was leafing through the racks of a local Goodwill when I saw it: a bright pink sweater covered with multi-colored hearts. I swooned, smiled, and then stopped: Was this too girly?


Now, 4, her son wants to look like a boy. Kaloi will let him, though she seems to be hoping he’ll turn out to be gay so they can have more fun with glitter.  “I suppose this is all part of realizing my kid is getting older, but there’s a real part of me that mourns the loss of freedom in clothing, however temporary it may be,” writes Kaloi.

“Whose ‘freedom’ would that be?” asks Amy Alkon, the Advice Goddess. The “nitwit mom” doesn’t mention Daddy, Alkon adds. The little boy’s only male role models seem to be his preschool buddies.

A commenter known as Conan the Grammarian asks the relevant question: “Did she have a child or a doll?”

To make Mom happy, Dad needs bacon bucks

In What a Mom Wants in the Wall Street Journal, Megan Basham argues that the recession is not helping women by laying off their husbands and make them primary breadwinners. She looks at a Good Morning Profile of the Hemmert family: Mom is working 14 hours a day while Dad is home with the kids. Eleanor Hemmert isn’t happy about the role change. Most women “prefer a husband who’s more interested in bringing home the bacon than in cooking it,” Basham writes.

Virtually every reputable poll taken on mothers and work reveals that a strong majority of moms prefer to work part time or fewer hours. Reflecting the results of many other polling organizations, the Pew Research Center’s most recent survey found that only 21% of mothers with children under the age of 18 say full-time employment is the ideal situation for them. The rest prefer either part-time work or not working at all. In contrast, fully 72% of fathers say a full-time job is the best option for them.

. . . In 2006, a University of Virginia study found that contrary to many feminists’ preoccupation with equal division of household tasks, dishwashing men do not happy women make. Along with a spouse who offers affection, attention and empathy, what really makes women happy is one who earns at least two-thirds of the family income.

I’m married to a man who earns far more than I do — and is an excellent bacon chef. And I am happy.