‘We’ got into Yale? Don’t Facebook it

It’s tacky to brag about your kids’ college acceptances on Facebook, writes Rosemary Sellers. Especially if you write that “we” got into Harvard, Yale and Dartmouth.

Yes, it feeds the college frenzy, but there’s no way to keep middle-class parents quiet when their children hit the Ivy jackpot.

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  1. My now-MIL was like this. The kicker was that she and FIL refused to pay one dime towards my DH’s college education. But she was sure proud to brag about where he was a student…

  2. Cranberry says:

    The parents she cites don’t actually write “we” got into Yale.

    However, if you want to stop being a competitive, self-centered, obnoxious parent, then keep your kid’s admissions information to yourself. If they decide to post it all over FB, fine… but don’t you do it. Why? Because quite frankly, it really, truly annoys everyone and it makes the admissions process that much more stressful for all involved. It also sets a bad example. You’re the parent. You’re the adult. Act like one.

    If you don’t want to know the results of a Facebook friend’s child’s college search, maybe you aren’t really friends with them. Perhaps you should prune your friend list, so that you aren’t overwhelmed with feelings of self-centered envy. Don’t agree to be friends with people whose children are all-state athletes and Intel talent search finalists. It’s bound to ruin your day.

    I enjoy hearing where students will attend college, because I know the families in question, and I wish everyone well.

    Act like an adult, and don’t get annoyed by people posting news on Facebook.

  3. Chartermom says:

    Personally, I like seeing where my friends kids are going to school. It’s a way of keeping up with people (and their kids) with whom I’m friendly but not friendly enough to keep in touch with on a daily or weekly or monthly basis. This is especially true since a fair number of my Facebook friends are people I’ve gotten know — or at least know better — through my kids’ activities and I am often as interested in their kids as I am in them.

    And no, it doesn’t bug me that some of them got into schools that my son won’t even consider applying to because he and I both know he doesn’t stand a chance. Different kids have different aspirations, work ethics and talents — I can still celebrate the achievements of others.

    And you can bet that this time next year, when my son has made his final decision, I’ll be posting that on my Facebook page. 🙂

  4. I have no idea what a MIL or a FIL are.

  5. Mark Roulo says:

    Mother In Law

    Father in Law

  6. Ok, that comment makes more sense now. What’s a DH, divorced husband???

  7. Dear husband most of the time, but on occasion d*** husband 🙂