Comments on: Overparenting is so over

By: lisa

lisa — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 22:36:11 +0000

What this is not saying (and teachers know) is that parents are not trying to be parents anymore because it’s too hard! So they are taking the easy road…indifference. How do I know this is true? Go to a restaurant…parents are there physically with their kids, but they are on their cell phone and the kids are using their DS. Parents are always looking to get away from their annoying kids (who they’ve created to be annoying!).

By: Cbiskit

Cbiskit — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 20:15:55 +0000

One part of this discussion is missing, and is an issue that I have experienced 1st hand recently. Over-Parenting or high expectations for your children can have a horrible, and deadly negative effect in some cases. My children are grown, 26, 24, 22. Two of them, (24, 22) recently had friends commit suicide. Both because they could not figure out what to do with their lives. Their parents had expected more out of them. I watched my son stress last year as he was trying to get a job before he graduated from college. I was very worried about him, but tried to assure him something would come up. And it did and he has a job he loves. But it does not happen for all kids and they need to know that it is OK.

By: Ben F

Ben F — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 16:59:58 +0000

Superdestroyer,

It seems to me that the vigilant parenting of Asian-American families I’ve seen is different than that of many white helicopter parents. The former seem more bent on academic achievement; the latter on protecting/spoiling their kid, and shielding him from unpleasantness (mean teachers’ tough grading, competition with those aggressive Asian kids, not getting to play in the soccer game, etc.) at all costs.

By: Miriam Kurtzig Freedman

Miriam Kurtzig Freedman — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 01:35:23 +0000

Fascinating Time Magazine story. For everything there is a season and it looks like, a backlash after that. In education policy and practices, things usually go back to the middle. Patience, patience, patience!

By: Parent2

Parent2 — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 17:16:44 +0000

Someone should tell the parents in my neck of the woods! But seriously, how much of this is real, and how much is the latest fad in magazine articles? And, how much is due to the need to strike all unnecessary expenditures from a family’s budget?

By: MTheads

MTheads — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 00:45:18 +0000

How about the problem of over-advising parents with annoying polls, studies, opinions, and biases?

By: superdestroyer

superdestroyer — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:49:36 +0000

I wonder if the Asian parents have stopped overparenting. Is this just middle class white families raising the white flag to Asian parents. Have middle class white families given up the idea that their children can ever be physicians, engineers, musicians, or Ivy Leaguers.

Maybe everyone should read the article in last months New York Magazine about junior league baseball that the amount of money spent by middle class white parents on sports.

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uberVU - social comments — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:31:28 +0000

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By: Swede

Swede — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:16:44 +0000

Yes, BadaBing, you are so right! I remember how the recession started the day Obama got inaugurated. Or maybe it was the day he was elected? I can’t quite remember. Either way, there is no possible way that it started under the Bush administration because of complex policies that both major political parties took part in developing over the last decade or so. Right, BadaBing? It has to be something as simplistic as your invaluable and intellectual analysis.

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