Constant esteem boosting by parents and teachers has created affirmation addicts, warns a Minneapolis Star-Tribune story. Adults who were overpraised in childhood can’t cope with a world that finds them not very special after all.
“It’s had serious repercussions,” (Minnetonka pediatrician Ernie) Swihart said. “These young adults who were raised in the ’80s, now in their 20s and in the workplace — those who received praise, rewards and prizes for everything they did without working very hard — often are very entitled and self-absorbed.
Steven McManus, a family therapist in Golden Valley, sees young adults who have problems resolving conflicts, handling disappointment or “tolerating any negative emotions at all.” It’s all good — or else.
Rheta DeVries, a professor of education at the University of Northern Iowa in Cedar Falls, complains that education schools are sending out student teachers who can only say, “Good job, good job, good job.”