That's so …

“That’s so gay” is the target of a new ad campaign that “will seek to discourage bullying and harassment of teenagers who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender,” reports the New York Times.

The theme:

“When you say, ‘That’s so gay,’ do you realize what you say? Knock it off.”

The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network is putting $2 million into the campaign, which includes a survey:

The survey of 6,209 middle and high school students from all 50 states and the District of Columbia found that nearly nine in 10 lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender students experienced harassment at school in the past year, three-fifths felt unsafe at school because of their sexual orientation, and about a third skipped a day of school in the past month because of feeling unsafe.

One in five said they’d been attacked physically in the last year.

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  1. Reality Czech says:

    The mis-appropriation of “gay” to mean “homosexual” has backfired.

  2. Uh, no. You’re so far from reality (and from understanding how language works) that not even a passport could get you there.

  3. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a kid saying, “That’s so gay” or any other morph of this harmless expletive. It’s normal for young men to assert their masculine identity by using such language, and it does not harm homosexuals. The homosexual agenda has been attempting to normalize their orientation and lifestyle for decades now, and in so doing they have become, among other things, language fascists that attempt to ride herd over the rest of us by controlling the words that come out of people’s mouths. I refuse to police teenagers that use the word “gay” in such a context. And to the homosexual language police I say, “What you’re doing is so gay. Knock it off!”

  4. Mrs. Lopez says:

    Thank you, Mr. Bing!

  5. Thanks for this information. I do not allow my students to use “gay” as an insult. To me it is no different than saying, (with great scorn or derision in the tone) “That’s so black.” or “That’s so Obese.” Personally, I don’t know if homosexuality is genetic or a choice, moral or not. I just know that using words like “gay” as epithets can hurt people who are gay or who have loved ones who are gay. I can see in my middle schoolers’ faces sometimes that they wonder whether I’m straight or not, given my staunch position on this. I’ll never let on either way to them, but yes, I’m straight. Bigotry is never okay. This is similiar to the debate on who, if anyone, is allowed to use the N word. It will probably never get resolved.

  6. Badabing –
    I’ll be laughing about your last comment for the rest of the day…

  7. Margo/Mom says:


    Keep up the good work! This particular use of the word gay is like the use of the word Jew to indicate someone who is cheap, or the n word to indicate someone who is beneath consideration. Like all such behaviors that kids adopt (and I would say especially at the middle school level when they are constantly picking up new things and trying them out with friends), we have an opportunity to challenge their thinking about what they were really intending to communicate and whether they actually hit the mark or landed on something different.

  8. Reality Czech says:

    You’re so far from reality (and from understanding how language works) that not even a passport could get you there.

    Here is the reality:

    1. Homosexuals took exception to labels like “queer” (except when they wanted to use them, e.g. “queer studies”)
    2. They started calling themselves “gay”, to appropriate a word with more positive connotations.
    3. The general public has now rebelled and given “gay” many of the same connotations as “queer”.

    That is how (a descriptivist will tell you) language works.

  9. That’s all so METROSEXUAL…

  10. Actually, it makes more sense for them to appropriate a new word… after all that, that’s what has been done with moron, I mean retarded, I mean handicapped, I mean disabled, I mean ______…

  11. I remember when Negroes was the accepted term, and they they wanted to be called colored. After a few years of being asked, “What color?”, they preferred to be called blacks. After a decade of that, they preferred to be called African-Americans.

    Sorry, but I could only keep up so far. I still call them blacks on those rare occasions where it is necessary to refer to them as a group. Besides, African-American has a completely connotation, one that I am not comfortable with. They’re plain old Americans, just like me, not some hyphenated American.