Strapless commencement

Middle-school girls want to look like top models at their graduation ceremonies, reports the San Jose Mercury News. Principals want to avoid the Lolita look.

At one middle school graduation, halters tops are OK, but spaghetti straps aren’t. At another, it’s the reverse. Strapless dresses and high heels are banned at most intermediate schools. And at Cupertino’s Kennedy Middle School’s ceremony tonight, administrators will bring shawls in case they need a “quick fix” for a skimpy dress.

Welcome to Pomp, Circumstance and Dress Code, 2008: ground zero in the teen-adult war over sensibilities, decency and identity.

A few schools just dress everyone in robes.

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  1. Independent George says:

    1. Why is there a commencement for middle school?
    2. What happened to caps & gowns?

  2. Dress codes should be set consistently for every school event. If girls aren’t allowed to wear halter/tube tops in class, they shouldn’t at the commencement, either.

    I’m just amazed that parents will let their daughters dress like sluts and justify it away because they will hurt their daughters’ feelings if they don’t.

    There isn’t a dress code at many churches, either. The graduation dresses will be showing up in church, sans sweaters.

  3. Hey, where have you been, IG?

    They do both now.

    The middle school graduation looks like our old high school one. You get to pay for your kid’s cap and gown and be stuffed in a loud, overcrowded auditorium twice.

  4. SuperSub says:

    The fight isn’t between the administrators and the students… it’s between the administrators and the parents, who seem to encourage their daughters to look like hookers. I usually see more mothers embracing their “inner nightwalkers” when buying clothes for their daughters than the daughters themselves.

  5. Catch Thirty-Thr33 says:

    I agree with Independent George. Granted, I am biased: I felt, and still feel, that my high school graduation was just a waste of time; and a great opportunity for a bunch of politicians to break their arms by patting themselves on the back.

    (Also, it is a time to say goodbye to all your wittle friends you allegedly grew up with from first grade on…never mind that my being a military brat threw that out the window. That, and I simply wasn’t buddy-buddy with anyone from my graduating class. There went another reason to attend…but enough of that.)

    But why in the hell is there a middle school graduation?

  6. Bill Leonard says:

    Middle school graduation seems to have a fairly long tradition in California.

    My family moved to the Golden State in 1955, when I was in sseventh grade. My parents and I both were amazed to learn of a “graduation” exercise for eight-grade kids; my folks didn’t make much of a bigt deal about ti, given that the expectation was that I would undoubtedly graduate from high school.

    But no question, it’s waste of everyone’s time and money.

  7. I went through a junior high graduation over 30 years ago, in rural Illinois, so it’s hardly a new thing.

  8. dangermom says:

    I graduated from junior high (in CA) in 1986, and most of the girls wanted to wear strapless dresses to the ceremony back then too. I think the cap and gown deal is probably a good solution, since it pretty much makes the point moot. The girls will still want to wear the dresses, but at least exposure is limited. AFAIK junior high graduations haven’t traditionally had cap and gown ceremonies because it’s so young to start all that–but hey, whatever works.