Comments on: Kids in charge http://www.joannejacobs.com/2007/09/kids-in-charge/ Thinking and Linking by Joanne Jacobs Thu, 09 Feb 2012 22:47:54 +0000 hourly 1 By: rory http://www.joannejacobs.com/2007/09/kids-in-charge/#comment-35754 rory Thu, 13 Sep 2007 19:59:46 +0000 http://joannejacobs.com/2007/09/13/kids-in-charge/#comment-35754 This is what happens when the 'me' generation has kids. Our kids were doing most household chores by the age of 6. This is what happens when the ‘me’ generation has kids.

Our kids were doing most household chores by the age of 6.

]]> By: joycem http://www.joannejacobs.com/2007/09/kids-in-charge/#comment-35753 joycem Thu, 13 Sep 2007 18:29:22 +0000 http://joannejacobs.com/2007/09/13/kids-in-charge/#comment-35753 Kids respond if the parents are in charge. It's easy to tell in the classroom which kids have parents in charge, and which kids are in charge. It's not a universal, it's a family-by-family thing. Kids respond if the parents are in charge. It’s easy to tell in the classroom which kids have parents in charge, and which kids are in charge.

It’s not a universal, it’s a family-by-family thing.

]]> By: timfromtexas http://www.joannejacobs.com/2007/09/kids-in-charge/#comment-35752 timfromtexas Thu, 13 Sep 2007 17:20:22 +0000 http://joannejacobs.com/2007/09/13/kids-in-charge/#comment-35752 Kids just don't respect the adult society. They perceive quite well, that the adults are confused, and can't decide what path to take in almost any aspect of community and society. It breeds anger and defiance. Kids just don’t respect the adult society. They perceive quite well, that the adults are confused, and can’t decide what path to take in almost any aspect of community and society. It breeds anger and defiance.

]]> By: BadaBing http://www.joannejacobs.com/2007/09/kids-in-charge/#comment-35751 BadaBing Thu, 13 Sep 2007 16:21:21 +0000 http://joannejacobs.com/2007/09/13/kids-in-charge/#comment-35751 This is why I can't stand <i>Gilmore Girls</i>. This is why I can’t stand Gilmore Girls.

]]> By: Darcy http://www.joannejacobs.com/2007/09/kids-in-charge/#comment-35750 Darcy Thu, 13 Sep 2007 16:16:30 +0000 http://joannejacobs.com/2007/09/13/kids-in-charge/#comment-35750 Years of watching the Simpsons and the Rugrats teach the kids that adults are stupid. Years of watching the Simpsons and the Rugrats teach the kids that adults are stupid.

]]> By: Stacy http://www.joannejacobs.com/2007/09/kids-in-charge/#comment-35749 Stacy Thu, 13 Sep 2007 14:29:23 +0000 http://joannejacobs.com/2007/09/13/kids-in-charge/#comment-35749 The phrase I use when one of my boys speaks disrespectfully is, "Excuse me?" Said softly with eyes narrowed and head slightly tilted. My husband has told me that he thinks they're a little scared of me. That's okay with me. The phrase I use when one of my boys speaks disrespectfully is, “Excuse me?” Said softly with eyes narrowed and head slightly tilted. My husband has told me that he thinks they’re a little scared of me. That’s okay with me.

]]> By: ricki http://www.joannejacobs.com/2007/09/kids-in-charge/#comment-35748 ricki Thu, 13 Sep 2007 13:50:52 +0000 http://joannejacobs.com/2007/09/13/kids-in-charge/#comment-35748 I work with kids and teenagers in a youth group; I've seen some of this kind of behavior. It causes considerable cognitive dissonance in someone like me (who would have gotten sent to her room, grounded from tv and friends, or even thwacked on the bottom had I been defiant to my parents) to have a child respond with "NO" when I tell them it's time to clean up, or that it's time to put the ball away and get ready to go home. Usually, with continued insistence and sternness the kid relents and obeys, but it doesn't seem right to me that I should have to tell someone for whom I am responsible to do something eight or ten times before they do it. (I don't have kids, but if I did - I think I'd do a lot of room-sending-to or grounding-from-television-watching if they were that way.) Children do not need another set of friends who just happen to be their parents; they need PARENTS. The friend-thing can come later, when the kid grows up and respects you for having been strict and raised them right. I work with kids and teenagers in a youth group; I’ve seen some of this kind of behavior.

It causes considerable cognitive dissonance in someone like me (who would have gotten sent to her room, grounded from tv and friends, or even thwacked on the bottom had I been defiant to my parents) to have a child respond with “NO” when I tell them it’s time to clean up, or that it’s time to put the ball away and get ready to go home.

Usually, with continued insistence and sternness the kid relents and obeys, but it doesn’t seem right to me that I should have to tell someone for whom I am responsible to do something eight or ten times before they do it.

(I don’t have kids, but if I did – I think I’d do a lot of room-sending-to or grounding-from-television-watching if they were that way.)

Children do not need another set of friends who just happen to be their parents; they need PARENTS. The friend-thing can come later, when the kid grows up and respects you for having been strict and raised them right.

]]> By: tapir47 http://www.joannejacobs.com/2007/09/kids-in-charge/#comment-35747 tapir47 Thu, 13 Sep 2007 13:29:26 +0000 http://joannejacobs.com/2007/09/13/kids-in-charge/#comment-35747 This happens because a parent cannot even look cross-eyed at a child without being accused of some form of abuse. This happens because a parent cannot even look cross-eyed at a child without being accused of some form of abuse.

]]> By: gahrie http://www.joannejacobs.com/2007/09/kids-in-charge/#comment-35746 gahrie Thu, 13 Sep 2007 12:45:37 +0000 http://joannejacobs.com/2007/09/13/kids-in-charge/#comment-35746 I sincerely hope Dr. Spock is roasting in hell. I sincerely hope Dr. Spock is roasting in hell.

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