Young and jealous

Abusive relationships can start in the teen years, reports the Chicago Tribune, which writes about programs to persuade Chicago students that it’s not OK to hit, threaten or send 30 text messages an hour to “check up” on what your significant other is doing.

A Chicago teacher asked students: Is it ever OK to be abusive with a boyfriend or girlfriend?

A 16-year-old boy spoke up. “If she does something to provoke you, then you have to put her in her place,” he said nonchalantly. “I’m not going to hit her in the face … but I’m not going to run, either.”

… “A guy may need to get a little physical … to know where his girlfriend is at all times,” one boy argued.

“It’s a way to show how he cares about you,” another said.

In a 2005 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention study, 9.2 percent of teens said they had been “hit, slapped or physically hurt” by their dating partners in the previous 12 months. Boys were as likely as girls to report being hit by a partner.

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Comments

  1. Catch Thirty Thr33 says:

    Well, so long as girls/women keep dating/marrying those guys, and thus indicate that such behavior is in fact in demand, my sympathy shall be quite limited.

  2. Miller Smith says:

    I stand in the hallways during class changes and watch the children. I see females hitting, pushing, smacking, verbally abusing their male friends and/or boyfriends all the time. I have yet to see a boy strike a girl. I have stood watching the children for 16 years.

    Our school system was very concerned with boy/girl violence. They issued memos and had in-servies on reporting all such violence. All techers were told to be very aware and to call security EVERY TIME even the smallest event of ‘violence’ occured.

    In three days we wrote up over 100 girls…and no boys. Admin begam refusing write-ups. Now no one talks about it any more.

    Research has shown that incidents of violence of by girls occur 200 times more than by boys within boy/girl relationships. When we started writting up all instances-including bad words being directed by on to the other, the girls were the most violent.

    Now we don’t want to know. Everyone was absoluteley sure that boys were the worst. Now. We. Don’t. Care.

  3. Indigo Warrior says:

    Given that the public school system itself is based on the idea that a social minefield is not only natural but somehow good for the students, events such as these are no surprise.

  4. tim from texas says:

    It’s been going on for a long time, but it’s much worse now. I’m 63 and girls favorite attack back in the fifties was to kick the shins.
    I was taught by my dad to kick them back. Of course I got into trouble with the girl biased ed system. My dad would back me every time.

    That is exactly what I have taught my 4 boys. I tell them don’t hit first, and of course, do not instigate a confrontation, but if you are attacked by a boy are a girl, attack back, even if it is in front of the principal.

    This has always been a problem among many others between males and females. Coed schools are always female biased.
    They shouln’t be together until at least sophomre year and just gradually then.

  5. Given that the public school system itself is based on the idea that a social minefield is not only natural but somehow good for the students, events such as these are no surprise.

    Excellent comment.