No big deal

Oral sex is no big deal, say teen-agers surveyed at two California schools.

About one in five ninth-graders report having had oral sex and almost one-third say they intend to try it during the next six months, a small study of teens at two California schools reports.

The teenagers, whose average age was 14 1/2, also say oral sex is less risky, more common and more acceptable for their age group than intercourse.

There was little difference between girls and boys in attitudes or sexual experience.

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  1. Walter E. Wallis says:

    Less risky? Only if pregnancy is the ONLY worry. Babies grow up in 18 years, death is forever.

  2. Mr. Davis says:

    Braggadoccio and wishful thinking.

  3. Of course oral sex less risky. Science and simple logic tell us that. Penetrating things such as vaginas and anuses can lead to more opportunities for the transmission and lodging of virus-laden materials than oral contact can. It’s just a basic anatomical fact that saliva-laden mouths and human upper digestive tracts are better at breaking down or killing viruses and bacteria than are rectums and vaginas.

    Of course, the real question is “less risky than what?” If someone wants to stress abstinence, that’s fine. No one suggests that that isn’t an effective way to avoid risks. But even the more thoughtless teenagers know that there are different degrees of risk associated with different actions. Pretending all sexual activity is the same is a really stupid proposition to start with, even if it is the only way some people feel morally-able to discuss sex and teenagers.

    Also, has anyone actually tracked down the actual questions this survey asked? I’ve read a lot about the results, but I think it would be better to discuss the results with some knowledge of the methodology. If I’m absolutely full of it, I won’t change without some decent evidence to the contrary.

  4. BadaBing says:

    Well, Monica had sex with Bill, but Bill didn’t have sex with Monica. Therefore, it’s only sex if you’re giving it. I think we need some new nomenclature here.

  5. lindenen says:

    You can get stds in your mouth. Stuff like gonorrhea. Yuck. Imagine having gonorrhea in your face.

    Oral sex has also been linked to mouth cancer. No, really.

  6. AZRandall says:

    You think this is scary? “Secret Sex Lives of Kids
    One in twelve children is no longer a virgin by his or her thirteenth birthday, and 21 percent of ninth-graders have slept with four or more partners. An alarming report every parent must read.” –

  7. nailsagainsttheboard says:

    Re: Preteens and teens O.S and promiscuity:

    There are many reasons for this cultural decline. Those who stand for nothing, will fall for anything. A few immediately come to mind:

    1. Thank you, Bubba Clinton…oral sex indeed isn’t really sex. Now, it’s kinda like shaking hands.

    2. Thank you, mass media, especially the popular music industry and Hollyweird, for glorifying promiscuity. Anything goes.

    3. Thank you, most public schools, for teaching sex education as just biology; common sense tells us that human sexuality is complex and requires an understanding of the biology AND a moral/personal values context. There are some universal moral principles that can actually be taught that won’t encroach on religious diversity. It’s not rocket science.

    4. Thank you, many parents of America, who have simply abdicated their adult parental responsibilities to teach their children about personal responsibility. We are in the age of the Infantilization of adults in America. Time to grow up.

    As an elementary school teacher, I shouldn’t even have to be dealing with this issue, but I already have had to, several times. Sad.

  8. John from OK says:

    Only two high schools were surveyed, and 4 out of 5 9th graders there have not had oral sex. These numbers mean very little.

    A better survey might in fact find that oral sex is not considered to be real sex, and might also show that while the rate of teenage intercourse is down from 20 years ago, the rate of oral sex is up. But by how much, maybe 10%? Does this represent a societal breakdown, especially if the rate of teenage pregancy and STDs is down? We need more data to draw any conclusions.

  9. Walter E. Wallis says:

    Back in my day, oral sex was talking about it.

  10. Ross the Heartless Conservative says:

    If you want the girls to stop giving oral sex to the guys just have them get married.


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